My one word for this year is ‘enough’. As I was writing the post about my one word for the year, I pondered how it’s a great word for children as well. Children need to know that they are enough, just as they are. That nothing they can do, or not do, could make you love them any more or any less than you love them already. We need to show children they are enough just as they are.
We Need to Believe We Are Enough
First of all, though, we need to believe that we ourselves are enough. If we don’t believe that we are enough, then we will be striving to do things to show or prove that we are enough. This will send the message to children that they need to do things to be enough.
If we believe that we are enough and that our children are enough, then we can show children that they are enough by our words and actions.
Affirm Children That They Are Enough
We can affirm them by what we say to them. Praise and affirm who they are, not the actions that they perform. Write notes to them to affirm what we see in them.
Help children to affirm the gifts and skills that they have. Show them how far they’ve come. For example, “Remember when you used to struggle to tie your shoes, and now you do it really well.”
Help them to affirm themselves and use positive self-talk. Maybe even teach them to say to themselves “I am enough” when they are in a situation where they feel inadequate. Affirm each other regularly or on a person’s birthday go around and get everyone to say what they appreciate about the birthday person.
Remind them often that they don’t need to do anything to win your favour, they are enough just as God has made them. God has made them just right, and God don’t make no junk!
Books About Being Enough
Books can be a great way to teach children or discuss important topics. Here a few books that remind children they are enough:
- I am Enough: A positive affirmation book for children (and the child inside us all) by Dr Heather Alesch
- I am Enough by Grace Byers
- Zero by Kathryn Otoshi
- Rock What Ya Got by Samantha Berger
How do you show your children that they are enough?
This post was originally published on Jillian’s blog www.feedmyfamilyblog.com.
Jillian has been married to Murray for over 25 years and they have 2 young adult children. She has been blogging for over 8 years. On the blog, she writes about feeding the family in body, mind, heart & soul. Jillian also enjoys speaking at women’s groups & conferences about parenting and nurturing children’s faith.