The last two years have forced a lot of change upon most of us. Such unexpected, out-of-our-control changes can be hard to deal with. Change can be difficult for kids and adults alike.
Even positive change can be difficult. It can be hard to let go of the old ways, to let go of what we know and embrace the unknown path ahead. But there are some things you can do to help you through.
Acknowledge the change
Be real with yourself. Acknowledge the change, and that it can be difficult. Allow yourself to grieve if you need to. Maybe your family has reached the ‘no more babies’ stage of life. Maybe you have moved towns to pursue new opportunities for your family and miss friends and familiar places terribly. Let yourself feel the feelings without berating yourself.
Give yourself time
It can take time to get used to change. Give yourself time to adjust to new routines and/or create new habits. Sometimes it can take us a little while to get our head around a change in circumstance and adjust our thinking accordingly. So be kind and compassionate to yourself.
Not everyone is the same
What one person takes in their stride, others may find difficult. Some may need a box of tissues when their ‘baby’ heads off to school, and others may skip away from the school gate. Some love the challenge of a new job, whilst for others, it’s a stressful and daunting prospect. Pay attention to how you are feeling.
Focus on the positive
The old saying ‘every cloud has a silver lining’ can sound a bit trite but is about looking for something good among the difficult. Are there things about the change that are or could be positive? What we focus on in life is what will become magnified in our life. I’m not talking about toxic positivity but rather looking for the good (where possible) in the little things. Maybe the good will simply be something in your day like the warm sun on your face after a long winter.
Remember to be kind and compassionate to yourself if you are struggling with change in your life. If you feel overwhelmed, make sure you reach out to a friend or professional for help.
Kelly McCrohan – MOPS Blog Administrator