There are currently around 7.6 billion people in the world and I’m pretty certain they’ve all had a mother. These mothers are all different shapes, colours, sizes and have all had different life experiences. They mostly all adore the child that they get to call their own and that love is mostly returned fiercely. Some are loud and hilarious and others are quiet and kind, while others are adventurous and others nurturing. Very few are all of these things.
I’m pretty sure every mother who has ever lived has felt at some point in their mothering journey that they could have handled things better or said something with more grace and compassion. But each one of these mothers is a leader to her tribe and one of the biggest influences in how her children view the world.
An educated woman recently told me that I won’t be the perfect mother to my children. That no matter what I do, they will grow up and feel that I haven’t done the perfect job of mothering them… I was suitably SHOCKED, however I felt an instant sense of freedom. I have spent their whole lives trying to mother them perfectly and do all I can to protect them, invest in their lives and let them know how loved they are. I have failed miserably on so many occasions and wondered if I was going to scar them with my inability to parent at times. (I have been a mother for 14 years now.) It is very refreshing to know that there has never been a perfect mother and there will never be one.
Despite all this, my children have turned out to be pretty amazing human beings. And yet I still hear the complaints come on a daily basis… Why do they have to put their washing in the basket? Why do they have to pick up their things? Why do they need to eat breakfast and go to bed? Life is just so hard for them at times and especially when I ask them to do things that they don’t want to do.
I won’t always be popular with them as I try to model and teach them how to navigate this life. But I have found freedom and confidence to lead them, my tribe, as I have embraced the fact that it’s ok to simply be me, an average middle aged working mother of 4 who loves the beach, food, reading and the arts.
So mums, there is only one of you on this planet and you have everything it takes to be an amazing mother to your children. May you be free to lead them to become all that they were created to be, and in the process may you also find freedom.