What comes to mind when I say “be gutsy”? Maybe you think of skydiving, karaoke, mountain climbing or public speaking. Maybe you think of letting your child go on a tall climbing frame, pulling out the glitter or splashing in muddy puddles. Maybe just getting out of bed in the morning and facing a new day takes guts. All of those are great examples of courage and being gutsy. We need to look at those examples of courage and challenge ourselves to add something audacious into our lives at times.
Today I want to focus in on an area that we may not always think of as gutsy. Look at these quotes from Lysa Terkeurst’s book “The Best Yes”:
“The decisions you make determine the schedule you keep. The schedule you keep determines the life you live. And how you live your life determines how you spend your soul.”
“A woman who lives with the stress of an overwhelmed schedule will often ache with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul.”
“We have to slow the rhythm of rush in our lives so the best of who we are can emerge.”
“I know I’m caught in the rip current of people pleasing when I dread saying yes but feel powerless to say no.”
“Saying yes all the time won’t make me a wonder woman. It will make me a worn out woman.”
The biggest message of being gutsy for us this year is to have the courage to take back control of our days and to let go of the weight of expectations- from ourselves and from the world around us. We need to realise that we get to decide how busy we are, what we say yes to, what is best for our families and what we make a priority in our own mothering. We have the authority to shape our daily lives. Are we exercising that authority or allowing the perceived view of others make our choices?
To be gutsy in this way, we have to bring our lives in line with our values and passions. It is possible but requires great courage, determination and intentionality. One way to start this process is to have an honest look at your life, your family routines and rhythms. I completed an exercise earlier this year that challenged me and helped me to focus in on taking back that authority in my life. I wrote down EVERYTHING that I do and that we do as a family. Quite daunting when you see it all on paper! After laying it all out, I took a pen and started editing my life. What was I doing simply because I was too scared to say no? What needed to be cut down or cut out? What was propelling me towards the life I want and what was holding me back? Where were the sources of needless busyness? Maybe that is an exercise that you could try to start shaping your life in line with where you want to head. We can’t change everything overnight but we can make one small change each day. What will be your change?
This year, we will choose to walk in the freedom to shape our family rhythms and to be released from believing that life has to look a certain way.