I’m sure that we would all agree that 2020 has not turned out the way we expected. It has been challenging for many, with disruption and change seeming to come from every side at times. We have all in some way experienced social isolation and lockdown this year, and for me the time at home brought with it some interesting reflection and changes. We are choosing the slow lane.
We are living in a time when busyness seems to be celebrated. There is constant pressure to do more and not miss out on anything. Our children’s schedules fill up fast. We try to ensure that they not only attend school but take part in multiple after school activities. Add to this church, youth group, work, catching up with family and friends, work, study, coaching, volunteering – the list goes on. We can quickly find ourselves in the ‘fast lane’, speeding through life, busy and stressed, getting lots done but involved in far too many things.
Fast lane “closed”
When Covid-19 restrictions first came in, we suddenly found ourselves with school, work, activities, sport, socialising, and even going to the park, all cancelled. I found myself missing some things, and not missing others. It was a good insight into what I valued most in my life. The ‘fast lane’ was closed, and we weren’t even able to travel in the ‘slow lane’ – we were well and truly parked in the garage with the door locked.
Staying in the slow lane
But as activities have started to resume (for some), I have made the conscious decision to stay in the slow lane. I’m making a choice about how fast my family moves and how busy our days become. For me, this has meant saying no to my children and others, to opportunities and even some things that I love. It’s been hard but well worth it, and I am finding myself enjoying life and my family much more.
There are others in the ‘fast lane’, and I need to remind myself that that is OK. They might do more and see more, but that doesn’t mean it’s better or where I should be. I love being in the ‘slow lane’ and am fighting hard to stay here. And I will support and encourage those that are in the ‘fast lane’, without being pulled in to merge if I don’t want to.
Enjoy the ride
I encourage you to choose how you want to move through life. A few years ago, at a conference, a speaker shared the idea that we get to choose the rhythm of our own lives. Find your own rhythm and what works best for your family. Surround yourself with friends who will encourage and support you where you are. Choose a lane and enjoy your ride more.