We were created for relationship. For community. What people the world over are currently experiencing is not natural. But at this present moment in time, we have no choice but to accept our circumstances and, for the greater good, embrace them! The focus needs to be on staying connected while isolated.
Isolation – the process or fact of isolating or being isolated; without relation to other people or things; separately.
It is of utmost importance now more than ever that we maintain contact with loved ones. Many people are experiencing high levels of anxiety and fear. Research shows that human connection (albeit from a distance at the moment) is not only an effective stress-reducer but it can improve moods and help our overall physical well-being.
Thank you, digital world
Connecting with friends and family has never been easier thanks to modern technology. Take advantage of it. Check-in with your nearest and dearest regularly. A simple text sending love their way can make someone’s day. In saying that though sometimes an actual phone call is better than a text. And even better than that is seeing someone’s face. Video call those you love. There are many grandparents out there missing their little grandies’ faces.
Group videos are also amazing. Great for work meetings, a casual, virtual brunch, for virtual MOPS meetings or for playdates! Setting up regular “playdates” for your kids will help them remain connected with friends they are missing. This can take some getting used to but suggesting they do something “together” while chatting can help kids relax. Maybe they can draw or build LEGO together.
For older kids and teenagers with access to computers, while it is important they stay connected with their peers, it is also vital their use of social media and reading of news articles etc is monitored. Over-exposure to such things can have the opposite effect and cause increased levels of anxiety. Ensure their online interactions are healthy.
Love who you live with
It is also important to stay connected with those under the same roof as you! This may sound absurd as the majority of us are now spending more time than ever with our families. But being in each other’s faces 24/7 can also lead to conflict. It is difficult finding the balance of everyone having the space they need but also sharing intentional quality time together.
Schedule in time to connect with your partner each day. It can be easy once the kids are in bed to get sucked into the never-ending virus news or Netflix show and before you know it, it’s bedtime and you’ve both spent your evening scrolling on your phones. Be intentional with your time. Put your phones away and play a board game. Talk about how you are each feeling. Watch your favourite TV show together. Check-in with each other regularly. We currently have a lot of spare time. Why not use this time to strengthen your relationship.
Connecting with your kids
If my three-year-old is being particularly ratty it usually means he could do with some quality one-on-one time. This can be rather difficult given our current situation but taking the time to simply read a book to him or play cars, just the two of us, can restore that connection and “fill his cup”.
My older boy loves snuggling with his mama in bed before he goes to sleep. Simple acts like this maintain connection and can ease anxiety in children. Kids aren’t silly; they know things are different at the moment. Help them feel safe and secure with your loving connection.
Most of us have essentially been forced to slow down. Our busy lives have come to a temporary standstill! This has been decided for us. All we have to do now is decide what to do with the time we have been given. And now is the perfect time to create some wonderful memories.
Take the time to connect with someone you care about today!
MOPS Blog Administrator