It’s never easy to forgive someone who has hurt you but when it’s a family member it can be even tougher.
When you harbour bitter feelings over something a family member has done or said it can impact the entire family. Your resentment can make things awkward for everyone involved often forcing others to take sides. That only makes things worse. It’s a vicious cycle.
The sad thing is resentment does nothing to solve the problem and it punishes the one who harbours the bitter feelings more than the one who inflicted the pain. The only way to move on with your life is to choose to forgive — regardless of how the other person responds. Remember that forgiveness is an act of the will, not the emotions. It’s a decision you make based on how you choose to live your life, not how others have treated you. In the end, it’s the only healthy way to live.
‘..For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins..’
For more family advice and encouragement, visit our Focus on the Family website www.families.org.au