In the running around of every day life as a mum it is easy to feel like our lives are being weighed down by the constancy of everyone else’s needs.
It is really important (especially in a safe and encouraging setting like MOPS) to be free to express our frustrations and struggles. And if we are leaders, it is important to be transparent in our human-ness… not projecting a standard of perfection which alienates another struggling mum.
But even (and maybe especially) in our darkest moments of motherhood it is important to keep the positives at the front of our minds. I always thought that this was a bit of a new-age kind of concept, but recently a friend pointed out that it is actually a Biblical instruction.
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. Philippians 4:8
There are so many “excellent or praiseworthy” things even in the hardest days with kids. Sometimes it just takes a slowing and remembering the bigger picture. Maybe imagining yourself in 15 years… will the paint on the new carpet seem so horrendous, or will it have turned into a family folk story? … Will you be chuckling at the strange turning of tables as you struggle to get a teenager out of bed? … Will you be remembering the days of finding play dough under the cushions on the couch with a funny nostalgia?
On a hard day, just whispering a positive thing can seem like climbing a mountain. But a whisper builds quickly to a confident voice and will soon return to a place of singing.
Today let’s think of what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable. Let us encourage ourselves as we walk through the day and give ourselves permission to draw strength from thinking and speaking of all the good things that we have been given as mums.