Someone once said, “You can complain that rosebushes have thorns or be thankful that thornbushes have roses.” In the same way it is easy to be over focused on the thorny challenges of parenting and forget the joy that children bring to your life and the great potential that lies inside each of them.
We each have a picture in our minds of what a perfect family looks like; usually something like ‘The Brady Bunch’ sadly though our reality is often more like the characters from ‘The Simpsons!’ But have you ever stopped to wonder: ‘What does God want for my family?’ I don’t think this would be the perfect picture of our imaginations, one where no one makes mistakes, but rather a family where everyone is working toward loving God wholeheartedly and learning to become the person that God made them to be.
I love the verses, ‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.’(Jeremiah 29.11) What do you think are the plans God has for your family? What are his plans for your children? He desires for your family to live out his principles in your daily family life. He wants your children to experience the lifelong benefits of following his commands. He wants them to build healthy relationships with each other and reflect his holy character in their lives.
I encourage you to look past the daily squabbles and tensions that make up family life and instead see the loving, unique personalities that God has planted in each of your children. Remember that in your eyes and words, your children see their reflection. The reflection they see will influence who they are and what they think they can become.
Make sure the reflection your children see in your eyes and hear in your voice reminds them that they are God’s special children, who he has filled with extraordinary potential. Help them to see themselves as God sees them, by remembering to look at them as God looks at them. God sees the finished product, the glorious end result and calls it into being. Ask God to show you his finished product and then work with him to make it come to pass.
Area Coordinator for MOPS in WA