The game of mothering, like all games we play, can be hard. Sometimes we would just love to tip the board game over and walk off in a huff as things don’t go our way or it is just beyond our comprehension to see how we can win!
This year we have been looking at ‘Mumsense’ the combination of commonsense and Mother’s intuition. Great gifts that God has given us to make decisions and recognise how to deal with situations in our mothering, but what do you do when commonsense and Mother’s intuition just don’t give the answers?
My family has just been through the loss of a baby at 11 weeks pregnant and I will wholeheartedly admit that there is no amount of commonsense or Mother’s intuition that can make that situation make sense. There was no indication that anything was wrong! So what gets you through the situations that don’t make sense, that just defy the laws of commonsense?
For me, it is to know that I have a real God who loves me and can see the bigger picture of my life. I know that I will never understand the reasoning (if there is any) as to why this situation happened but I do know that in the midst of it all, God continues to make me a wiser, stronger and more loving woman, mother and wife as I deal with the realities of the situation and the hurt and grief that come with it. He comforts me, gives me strength, shows me His love – sometimes it is just knowing and ‘feeling’ His presence, other times it is through the people that he places in my life; the person who provides a meal or the friend who gives a hug just when I need it. It is ‘Godsense’ that sees me through those times – not my own understanding but God’s.
My Grandmother gave me a bible verse that has become extremely significant in my life.
‘Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him and he will make your path straight.’ Proverbs 3:5-6.
Over and over again, in times when things just don’t seem to make sense, I have put my trust in God and He has led me through those trying times.
What do you do when your ‘Mumsense’ does not see you through a situation? What helps you through? I encourage you to seek ‘Godsense’ and rely on God’s love and strength to see you through those hard to comprehend circumstances.
Coordinator, Mt. Louisa MOPS, QLD