Shift and adjust…

I’m sure you’ve heard terms like “Life is a journey”, “Even the best laid plans don’t always work out” or “Things don’t always go along in life as you expect”…

So, what do we do when life turns an unexpected corner? 

Back in the midst of difficult times in the early 1980’s, then Prime Minister of Australia, Malcolm Fraser, notoriously told the country that “life wasn’t meant to be easy” …

Those words are in fact only part of an original quote by playwright George Bernard Shaw which, in full, states, “Life is not meant to be easy, my child; take courage: it can be delightful.”

There are difficult things we have to deal with in our journey as mothers, and, indeed, in life in general. How do we respond when life throws us a curve ball?

Our first response may be to have a quiet (or not so quiet) meltdown. I know there were many a time as a young mother that I could have chosen a better way to deal with a situation, and the volume level of the household may have been just a few decibels higher than it ought! Sleep deprivation does weird things to the mind and body. It diminishes our ability to reason and be reasonable, so the part of us that is always sweet, kind and fair just goes out the window and some of the not so nice bits take over. But we must learn to shift and adjust…

As mothers, we instinctively love our children; our deepest desire is to see our kids grow into healthy, respectful young people and kind, thoughtful adults. But the reality is that turning our precious newborns into respectful, productive adults is not something that comes easily… It’s HARD WORK with many a temper tantrum to deal with along the way! (And I’m not just talking about 2-year olds!) But we learn to shift and adjust…

As you help your babies navigate the big wide world there’ll be moments of complete tantalising joy. But there will also be many a time when it gets very tricky not to lose your cool. And plenty of times when ‘COOL’ is so far off the radar that you might even question whether being a ‘mum’ is really in your DNA!  Ah yes, this has been my journey too!! But we learn to shift and adjust…

How we choose to respond to situations and circumstances that present themselves from day to day will not only determine how successful we are in dealing with life’s comings and goings but also how well our children learn to respond to life’s challenges. We are modelling to them how to shift and adjust…

We are our children’s greatest influencers. They see and copy whatever we do, the way we act and speak and the way we respond to and treat others. Sometimes it can be a bit scary when you see yourself reflected in your child; other times it’s quite encouraging. It depends on what aspect they’re reflecting. We shift and adjust…

It’s good to keep things in perspective and take a moment to just breathe when life gets a bit tricky. There’s never a situation that can’t be navigated, and, one way or another, we can find our way to ensure a good outcome. As we shift and adjust…

It says in the Bible to “Dedicate your children to God and point them in the way they should go, and the values they’ve learned from you will be with them for life.”

There’s something satisfying about watching our kids navigate their own way in life and making good choices for themselves. Their choices may not be the ones we would have chosen for them but we must allow them to make their own mistakes so they can learn and grow just as we have done. We shift and adjust…

Our thoughts, our beliefs, our ideas, our dreams, our expectations all contribute to the kaleidoscope that is our life. For the most part, our ideal life will lean towards  what we consider to be good things, not bad things… I find it reassuring to know that God only has our best interests at heart. The Bible says that “He knows the plans He has for us; they are plans for good and not for disaster, to give us a future and a hope.” Even though it doesn’t always feel like it, we have someone who is always on our team, someone who is always cheering us on to get the best out of life and be the best we can be.

So indeed, life may not be easy, but take courage because it can be delightful!

We may just need to..shift and adjust…

Bronwyn Febey
Mentor, Ulverstone MOPS

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